Confrontation. No one likes it. We all try to avoid it.
When someone wrongs us confronting them seems like the worst thing to do. We rather ask others what they think about the situation. We go to everyone else , but the person we have a problem with.
Is this causing our churches to have conflict?
So often we go to our pastors when we have problems with others. Then ask the pastor to handle the situation.
But…doesn’t that cause trust issues among the people of the church?
When people actually have a problem they do not know who to go to. They hold everything in so not everyone will know. They don’t know who to trust.
As a church shouldn’t we be trustworthy?
What would happen when we have a problem with a church member and we spoke to them about it ?
Maybe we would become more trustworthy. People shouldn’t find out that we were talking about them behind their backs. They should know that we can be truthful with them.
“If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses. If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector. “Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. (Matthew 18:15-18)
Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. (Ephesians 4:25)